It’s almost the end of January – have your aspirations for “New Year, new you” already fallen by the wayside?
This time of year is often when people think about changing their lives for the better in the form of new year’s resolutions. We’re finally going to lose the weight! We’re finally going to start that business! We’re going to learn a foreign language!
Yet by the time February begins, many have already lost sight of those resolutions and have fallen back into familiar comfort zones. The urgency for a new beginning has worn off just as your hands are finally get used to writing “2018” instead of “2017.”
That doesn’t mean that we can never achieve our dreams. We aren’t stuck where we are with no room for growth – unless we say so. It’s a matter of revisiting how it is that we declare and achieve those dreams. There are three steps to remember when goal setting:
The dreaming part is relatively easy. But we often leave out a very important component to dreaming. The most important thing to consider when we come up with a goal is to attribute a vision to it: why do we want to reach this goal?
For instance, if the goal is to lose weight, it’s not really the number on the scale you’re looking to change. It’s likely the longer, healthier life and loving yourself that you’re working toward. It’s not a storefront you’re craving. It’s the freedom that comes with being your own boss. And it’s not about being able to speak two languages. It’s about feeling more comfortable to travel or communicating more deeply with people from other cultures.
It is when we lack a “why” in our goal setting that we lack the commitment to achieve it.
Once we have our dream, many of us get impatient in the time it will take to achieve our goal. It’s important to declare what are going to do and know the steps to get there. We often overlook the first and most important step of any action plan: research. We must declare the process it will take to get us where we want to go.
It’s when we dive in without a game plan that we’re more apt to bite off more than we can chew and quickly become disenchanted by our own dreams. Baby steps are far more lucrative long term because they are cumulative efforts that didn’t feel like such a drastic, unmanageable disruption that affected our everyday life. Do the research. Find the mentor or coach to get you where you want to go. Schedule your daily/weekly/monthly commitments toward the goal. Declare your dream in a way that works!
The final step is to then deliver that goal. Honor the commitment(s) you made to yourself in your action plan. Stick with the baby steps that will become new habits long term. Continue to recommit to yourself and your dreams again and again in every moment until finally you wake up and realize your dreams are now your reality.
It’s not easy, but it is that simple: Dream. Declare. Deliver.
Are you game?